For a child that has undergone what she has experienced in the last month, there is a lot to be said for establishing a secure routine. There is safety for her in this routine because she knows exactly what comes next. She knows when meals will happen and when "formal" snacks will happen. She knows that in between those snack and meal times she has access to her Cheerio cup and drink at all times. Changing the routine leaves way too much unexpected out there for her...she isn't sure if meals will still happen as planned or if her little world will be changing or remain the same. For the most part, during this time of cocooning, it is really simple to keep her routine unchanged each day. We don't deviate because we aren't going anywhere! I will say that for a child like Hannah, who needs this security in her routine, even the weekends present a new set of struggles. We haven't had enough weekends back home in America yet to fully establish the "routine" of a full week--weekdays and weekends included. Saturday and Sunday are confusing to her. She doesn't understand why Daddy is here when she wakes up, why our get ready routine in the morning is slower and different, why we don't have school, etc. So there is some uneasiness still to work through on the weekends. Once she has experienced more full weeks with us at home, she will get that natural rhythm of what Monday through Friday looks like and what Saturday and Sunday look like. Weekends are a little difficult right now. We generally see more behavior problems and just a more demanding attitude in general. It will come. In time.
She is learning that Mommy can do chores around the house and still pay attention to her. She enjoys helping with laundry and like all of our other kids, she loves to help me work in the kitchen.
So now, weeks two through (just shy) of four at home, there is a growing sense of security and peace. Don't get me wrong. We have days. Bad days. We had one day that was about as bad as China days. But we worked through it and the process of moving forward began again. No more unexpected. We are here to stay. Safety. Security. Loved. Cherished. Forever.
Safety and security in her role as little sister. Honestly, she can be really mean to these guys right now as she figures out how to play and be a sister. They teach us daily how to be compassionate and loving. True pictures of unconditional love in each one of them. Really proud of them and the safety they provide Hannah has she learns about sisterhood.
Safety and security in the expected each morning. Helping Mama do her chores!
Safety and security in the provision of meals and snacks at expected times each day.
Safety realizing she can be involved in Mama's chores and not be left out. She loves to help bake!